You Are My Sun (In The Worst Way)

I've been struggling with a person to whom I am very romantically attracted, and they are... less attracted to me. As such I often feel some pain when thinking about them, and the situation. On paper we are great for each other (they seem to agree with this sentiment), but for one reason or another – be it timing, or an unfortunate biological lack of spark on one side or the other – we are out of sync.

This morning I thought of an analogy, as I tried to analyze the current state of my feelings, and pain. This person is like a Sun. As with the Sun, you can be aware of it's existence, enjoy it while it's around, even look near it as it affects things in your life, but look right at it and it's painful. Similarly, I enjoy this person's existence, I like it when they're around, I can reflect on fun times and activities that have involved them, but when I think directly about them, I'm in pain.

Now I'm left wondering, is this tenable? Can I continue to avoid thinking directly about them as I avoid looking directly at the Sun? Or does this treat that person unfairly, and hold them at arms length?